Attachment Theory. Haley Woodley . Texas Woman’S University.

Attachment Theory Haley Woodley Texas Woman’s University Attachment Theory When we were a child we all had something to be attached to rather it was a toy or our parents. Where does this feeling come from or how do we become attached to these certain things? According to Merriam Webster dictionary the meaning of attachment is â€Å"the state of being personally attached or the physical connection by which one thing is attached to another† (Webster, 1828). Attachment is learned when we are infants and taught by our caregivers, they can affect social development and how we treat each gender, attachment can affect our relationships as adults, and attachment can help protect our memories. Attachment in childhood There are four types of†¦show more content†¦Kohuts would say we look for three â€Å"self-object,† mirroring, idealizing, and partnering (Brandell, 2010). These three self-objects are presented in the caregiver and the child picks them up. However, are they equal to attachment or underlying extension to how attachments are formed? Mirroring is when the child performs something great and the caregiver applauses them for it. Idealizing is when the child looks up to their caregiver. Partnering is the child and caregiver becoming friend like (Brandell, 2010). Building attachment with underlying extension of self-objects help with the relationships we have and our social development. The relationships we have with people as we grow up normally reflect the kind of attachment we have with our caregivers. A child’s first experience of attachment is the first time a mother holds her child after being born which would builds an instant attachment and bond between them that is unbreakable (Brandell, 2010). Attachment affect our adult relationships The types of relationships we build as children follow us as adults. Our relationships we have reflect the attachments we grow with our caregivers. Secure attachment allows us to feel physically and emotional stable while the other three attachments allow us to have more social and emotional difficulties in the relationships (Belfiore Pietrowsky, 2017). If you look back you can see what kind of attachment you had with your caregiver